What does the world really think of pornography? How do attitudes toward porn and sexualized media change over generations? And more importantly, what can we do about it?
Porn is the greatest threat facing the Church today. Those in the Church must live with integrity—reaching out when we struggle, understanding and addressing the complexities of a porn addiction, and sharing the message with others.
When a person uses pornography, that person struggles not only spiritually but also neurologically. To best help that person, we need to understand more about how using pornography impacts a person’s nervous system.
We know that with the advent of the Internet, pornography is now pervasive and easily available. But do we know its impact? Understanding these outcomes is the first step to setting us all free from these catastrophic consequences.
The movement to end sexual exploitation is here! This fight is no longer waged alone. Tens of thousands are standing up to defend human dignity and oppose sexual exploitation.
Around the middle of the 20th Century, Alfred Kinsey, Hugh Hefner, and others set out to redefine how we saw sexuality. The result has been increasingly hardcore child pornography, available to younger and younger children.
What is love? What is wrong with pornography anyway? Why can’t I stop even though I know it’s wrong? A vision of human and divine love can provide a road map for understanding and healing pornography and sexual addiction.
Counseling is a nuanced practice, but when you need to counsel people who are in pain because of pornography use—and who are perhaps even addicted to it—it is even more challenging.
Women don’t really watch pornography, do they? They’re just into fantasy, not ‘real’ pornography, right? Wrong. Women you lead, women who lead, wives, sisters, daughters, mothers, women you know are watching pornography.
Why is fantasy so powerful? Why is it so destructive on so many levels? What does fantasy reveal about a man’s relationship to reality? What emotional conflicts within men are at the root? What are the relational consequences of engaging in unhealthy fantasy?
When a husband is addicted to pornography, his wife often bears the fallout of his choices, leaving her shattered, betrayed, and alone. How can we help her focus her eyes on the God of Hope and begin a spiritual quest to redefine her life regardless of her husband’s daily choices?
We now have data that clearly shows the connection between accountability and passing on the parents’ good values to their kids. The family that talks together walks together. Those who take the spiritual formation of their family are successful in passing on their values.
The vast majority of boys are exposed to pornography before they turn 18, and the average age of first exposure is just 12 years old. How well do you understand what seeing pornography does to a child and that child’s view of sexuality? What about shame?
Children and young adults live in a culture that has accepted pornography as a normal part of life. How can you have a real conversation about pornography and help these young people turn toward a more wholesome sexuality?
The essence of Christian faith can be defined as reconciled relationship with the creator. Pornography simply undermines that notion. Rather than enhance intimacy with God and others it utterly decimates both relationships.
In our clinical studies we have discovered that 60-72% of men sitting in the pews on the weekend in Evangelical churches meet the clinical criteria for being a sexual addict. Is there hope for real revival? Is there a biblical pattern that we can look to for hope?
While many people in the church believe accountability is a good idea, often the experience is less-than-desirable. How does accountability go wrong, and how we can create new norms in the church that make accountability a blessing once again?
Since every church and Christian home is affected by pornography in some way, we need to give pastors the tools to communicate about the bubonic plague of pornography within the church. Pastors can win this war! Pastors must win this war!
We need a Wilberforce, a Mother Theresa and a Bonhoeffer in the church today who have the courage to battle the devastation of porn as they did slavery, poverty, and Nazism. The church is the only hope to reverse this trend. Will you do your part?
Syzygy. It’s a great word if you’re playing Scrabble. It is usually reserved for the times that three or more celestial bodies line up perfectly.
But it now holds sway as a one-word summary of the Set Free Global Summit two weeks ago.
Prior to working at Covenant Eyes, I was a youth ministry director for six years. In this role, I was expected to attend large conferences. These massive, 3-4 day events with my peers and the nation’s top experts on student ministry were gold for me. I took copious notes and stalked certain speakers during break-out sessions, soaking up everything, while drinking way too much Mountain Dew.
But then I would come home, and the same thing happened almost every time – I refer to it as PCP, or “Post-Conference Paralysis.” I was left with an overwhelming feeling of “now what?” All of the brilliant concepts and Holy-Spirit prompted ideas seemed like a huge square peg in a round hole, competing for space with clearing out my email inbox, and ordering pizza for the evening youth group gathering, among a mountain of other seemingly “urgent” things.
Have you ever experienced this? Maybe you have PCP right now.